3 important steps for dating with herpes
Many people with herpes suffer a form of depression that prevents them from dating or having any sort of sexual encounter after being diagnosed. In their mind, the unsurities of having herpes and navigating the dating world is too overwhelming to be worth delving into. Again, the undeserved feelings of embarrassment and shame alone may be overpowering enough to keep someone from even talking to a ‘hot guy’ or ‘cute girl’. Here are three important steps for people with herpes to get back to dating world.
1. Heal yourself emotionally, get counseling, take time to process your diagnosis and accept it.
Before you invite someone into your life you need to make sure you are someone you would want to date yourself. Many people living with std tend to feel like they’ve been given a life sentence with a condition that negatively affects every aspect of their life. When it comes to herpes, not only do physical and medical factors play huge roles, but many need to acknowledge the emotional and psychological toll it takes on someone. And even if you’re not ready to admit it, this someone could be you, or could be someone very close to you. There are local herpes support groups and lots of online herpes dating sites. You will meet lots of people who have went through the same problem around you.
2. Prepare and protect yourself and your partner.
- take prescription antiviral medication
- take daily suppressive therapy
- explore natural and home remedies
- wear cotton panties, loose-fitting clothing
- have sitz baths or hot salt water bath 3 to 4 times a day
- keep lesions dry
- use hair dryer if towel is too painful to dry off
- use ice packs to reduce swelling
- take steps to ease stress
3. Talk about it.
Maybe you were given a choice and maybe you weren’t but do what is right for your partner so he/she can make up his/her own mind as to whether he/she is willing to take the risk. Only a small percentage of people accept the chance of contracting it. Keep dating, and you will find someone who wants to be with you regardless of your condition. There are certainly some who wouldn’t mind keeping the intimacy level just short of doing things that could transmit the virus. And of those people, it’s likely that at least one will come around, and say, “Hey, I understand there’s a risk, but I’m crazy about you, so I’m willing to take it”.
Depending on your dating style, you might look for another person who knows he or she has herpes, if only to avoid having to discuss it. If you already use dating services or personal ads, you can also use any of those specifically for people with genital herpes. There are lots of online herpes dating sites. Read reviews of the popular herpes dating sites and pick the best herpes dating site suited to your personality and tastes.